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The Ethical Slut Social: Wry's Polytalks feat. author Janet Hardy, + guests at Hacienda Villa

  • Hacienda Studio Bushwick, Brooklyn, NY (map)

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Come join us to celebrate relationship diversity, and to learn about the Third Edition of The Ethical Slut (coming out August 15th) directly from author Janet Hardy!

First half of the event is a Q&A audience-driven discussion, followed by a social soiree with appetizers, BYOB, and more details regarding Hacienda Villa here:


Only 125 tickets will be made available, which is max capacity, and expected to sell out. Can't make it in person? Buy a ticket to livestream the event!

6.9% of all ticket sales will be donated to Planned Parenthood.

For private consulting, please see Wry's site for information and request a free consultation:


"PolyTalks and Wry Relationships" are guided open forums in a Q&A format. We explore Consensual Non-monogamy, Mono-Amory, Polyamory, Relationship Anarchy, DADT, swingers, BDSM, casual sex, non-exclusive dating, threesomes, and anything outside the realms of traditional monogamous heteronormativity.

♥ What do these lifestyles look like?

♥ How do you practice them in the most ethical way?

♥ What are the pitfalls, pros, and cons?

♥ What are you personally struggling with right now?

Under the umbrella of Relationship Positivity, we celebrate, validate, and discuss a full spectrum of options and love styles.


Participation in the conversation is highly encouraged in this Q&A format. Wry and our special guests discuss your interests, questions, and issues.

For a preview, check out Wry's youtube channel:

On all social media (Twitter, Instagram, etc: aWryPerspective)

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About the Venue: Hacienda Villa

Bushwick, Brooklyn, NY 11206

- Doors at 4pm

- Polytalk event 5pm to 8pm

- Afterparty 8pm to 11pm.

- ($50 tix) VIP main live stage area downstairs

- ($35 tix) Multiple viewing rooms upstairs with the live event

simultaneously projected on 140" screen, roughly 3000 ft.², with 2 outdoor spaces with fire-pit table, hot tub, and cuddle puddle area on a 2x queen bed.

- Both tiers include the Afterparty, which takes places in the same venue as the Polytalk.

Check out the video tour here:


Special Guest:

Janet W. Hardy

Janet W. Hardy is the author or coauthor of eleven groundbreaking books about relationships and sexuality, including The Ethical Slut (over 200,000 copies sold to date, including the second edition published in 2009 by Random House) and her recent memoir Girlfag: A Life Told In Sex and Musicals.

What are the differences between the 1st, 2nd, and 3rd edition of The Ethical Slut?

The third edition of this timeless guide to communication and sex has been revised to include interviews with poly millennials (young people who have grown up without the prejudices their elders encountered regarding gender, orientation, sexuality, and relationships), tributes to poly pioneers, and new sidebars on topics such as asexuality, sex workers, and ways polys can connect and thrive. The authors also include new content addressing nontraditional relationships beyond the polyamorous paradigm of "more than two": couples who don't live together, couples who don't have sex with each other, nonparallel arrangements, couples with widely divergent sex styles, power disparities, and cross-orientation relationships, while utilizing nonbinary gender language and new terms that have come into common usage since the last edition.

The difference are pretty culturally significant. Both mainstream society and the alt non-monogamy cultures were so wildly different from today. Compare how the world looked and sounded in 1997 when the 1st edition was published vs. 2009 for the 2nd edition vs now in 2017.

Notice the word polyamory itself does not appear in the 1st edition! I believe only 1 paragraph mention of it inside the pages. In 1997, the word polyamory had only been around for about 6 years.

Much has changed in 20 years, including lexicon internally in our conversations and greater acceptance by society. Even the subtitle changed to reflect these changes. Part of it was pressure from the Publisher and part of it was due to debate and discussion between Janet and Dossie.

1st: The Ethical Slut: A Guide to Infinite Sexual Possibilities

2nd: The Ethical Slut: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships & Other Adventures.

3rd: The Ethical Slut, Third Edition: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships, and Other Freedoms in Sex and Love.

The third edition will list the subtitle on the title page only, not on the cover - that long clunky thing is good for search terms, but we kind of hate it, so this is the compromise we struck with Random House Books.

The third edition will be published on August 15th, 2017. You can preorder with Janet at the event or on Amazon.

Janet serves as Editorial Director for Greenery Press, the firm she founded in 1992, as well as for Down There Press. She also runs The Active Voice, which offers editorial, event and promotional consulting. Janet's full bio can be found here:

A list of books Janet has authored can be found here.


Stay tuned: other special guests and panelists to be announced!

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